"THE ONE"

How many of us have thought we have found "THE ONE"?

Some people are blessed to find "The One," the love of their life, their soul mate/best friend - and there are those of us who are still searching for "The One" to share our lives with and the companion who we can call our best friend.

Why is it so hard for some and not others?, maybe we need to take the time to learn to LOVE ourselves first and foremost. We try to put too much emphasis on trying to find a companion, when we need to learn more about ourselves before we try learn to love someone.  There are many times I wonder why I am single and it is not a matter of wanting to be by myself but I find that there are so many things that I am learning about myself and i feel like had I taken the time before to truly get to know what my likes and dislikes were, then I probably wouldn't have been better off.  (Shoulda, coulda, woulda.......lol.........this is how we grow - we learn from experience)

However, do not take this the wrong way, I am not mad at the fact that I am single, I feel like this is an opportunity to learn more about myself.  I have seen too many people rush in to a relationship as soon as the get out of one. They do not give themselves enough time to heal and try to figure out why the previous relationship did not work out.  As soon as the next relationship starts, it has already ended because they carry over the past issues/habits to the new relationship.  I have also seen where people blame the other person for the breakup, they are so blinded that they blame others for their faults instead of asking, "what went wrong?," "was there anything that could be done or dealt with differently?"

Some people take time out to analyze situations, where as others are blind sited.   The game of 'Passing the Buck' has been around for so long that we can't help but to fall prey to it. 

They are those of us who have been hurt in by the previous relationship that they have given up belief that there is someone special out there for them.  I know about the HURT or the DECEPTION of a relationship gone bad, but I believe that there is something better out there.  I consider myself an optimist, so I try to look at everything with a positive outlook.

Personally, I feel that in order to achieve TRUE HAPPINESS, you have to  LOVE yourself and love yourself to know that you are capable of LOVE and to LOVE and be LOVED. 

Once you have achieved this very important aspect to your life then "THE ONE" will be looking for you and you will realize that it is worth it.